Treat Yo’ Self… to a Date!

Nope, this isn’t a shopping post - this is a dating post!! But don’t quit reading if you’re married. This is also a dating post for YOU. 

Who will you spend the rest of your life with - guaranteed? We all deserve a loving spouse to be by our side until we are super, super old and to die together in each other’s arms like in the Notebook. I pray that every one of you will have each of your children outlive you. But the only guarantee is that WE are the only person who will be with us every single day for the rest of our life.

So, doesn’t it stand to reason that you should really know and LIKE you?!  When was the last time you took yourself to dinner, or a movie, or went on a solo adventure? How well do you know yourself?

I am often guilty of staying ‘busy’ and not embracing stillness or checking in with myself from time to time. It’s important to not lose yourself in your relationship to others: as a mom, a child, a sibling, a partner. You are a person - a whole, complete person. You should have opinions and hobbies and have your own identity.

You know what’s empowering? Doing something yourself! One of my favorite days this summer was a drive a few hours north where I went on a 3-hour kayaking trip. I was a bit nervous, but it was such a freeing day. Would it have been fun to share with someone? Absolutely. Did it make me feel like a badass?! You Betcha!!

Ok, now for those of you dating: If you take the time to know yourself and what you like and develop hobbies, it can be easier to bond with someone who shares similar interests. This isn’t necessarily to say “you’ll never be happy with someone if you aren’t happy alone.” I believe we are not meant to go through life alone. We can share adventures and burdens with someone special, but being a complete person will make you a better partner. If you are looking for someone else to fill a void or define you, you’re more apt to fall into a codependent relationship. Alternatively, becoming so independent and alone can be a defense mechanism and keep people out. It’s all about finding the happy balance: knowing yourself, but still making space to let people in.

Cheers to making yourself your favorite person!! - Langley